Relationship Tips for being happy

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It seems everywhere you look online, someone has something to say about how to succeed in sexual relationships. As someone who revels in dialectics, I do revel in the plethora of information. The more voices and opinions, afterall, the better to make a synthesis, and some truth to absorb into oneself. Who doesn’t want to have a lasting/successful/fulfilling sexual relationship with another?

Alas, as I sat pondering all these things after a long bout of internet browse purging til 4 in the morning a thought came to me. Why not write my own? Afterall, I’ve been through a couple marriages and relationships in my short lifetime and make myself a studious scholar of all things that interest me. Surely I have something constructive to say about the whole fiasco of dating and such.

So here it goes:

1. Be Yourself.

Here is where most articles write a little explanation of the point given. Even though I’m sure I’m not alone in being one who just skims through and reads the bold. But, if you’re reading this, allow me to translate the above advice: Do you, don’t be not-you, keep it real, act natural, et cetera.
Unless you’re a rapist or a nazi. Then don’t be those things.

Also if you get the opportunity to be Peter Pan, do that. Cause if a fairy flies in your window and says your Peter Pan and you must return to Neverland because they need you, I don’t care who the fuck you are, you chose to be mother fucking Peter Pan. Cause fuck being an adult.

The End

Yep. No seriously, that’s my relationship advice. Pretty sure that’s all you need to be happy in life.

Penny for your Thoughts?

Why do we live in houses?

I threw this question out there a few weeks ago while sitting in deep thought. I had spent the last car ride staring out the window, contemplating the wooden boxes along the side of the road. 

Naturally, I know the answer. Shelter from the elements, mainly. A place to store our things, and congregate the people we want to be around. Yet my mind still wanders and asks “Why?” (as a good philosopher, I suppose, amirite?)

“This is mine” is all I can hear. Is it really? What is it with our species and possession? 

“This is my girlfriend” one will say, as a way to say she is yours and no one else’s. Really? My children, my car, my money….

I think fleetingly back to my college days. Why do we all look so fondly back on those wild times? Could it be because most of our time was spent without a consideration for ownership? Some lived in dorms, I spent much of it sleeping from house to house. Trekking up a long hill with my back-back to school, taking buses and trains. Sure, we look back on some of it as “immature,” and ashamedly admit to feeding off of our parents finances. 

But a part of me still sees that wandering nomadic life and finds something to admonish and extract a deeper life truth. 

Even if I can’t elaborate on it and attach to it words, it is there.

Penny for your Thoughts? Can you make sense of any of those thoughts? 

Future food shortage crisis

It really is real. It’s one of those problems those of us who live in third world countries find it easy to ignore. We also find it very easy and convenient to keep having babies. We’re like the domestic cat, populating like bunnies, unwanted children dying in streets or in “shelters”, and spreading disease.

Start sterilizing.

I’m serious. The people who say “but it’s our natural right to have babies” are the first to go. Get that ignorant shit out of the human genome and fast.

Making more food isn’t the answer. We are destroying ecosystems and the stability of thousands of species too quickly, giving them no time to adapt and survive.

Why is snipping people in the testes/Fallopian tubes not being talked about?

Someone with more ethics than me: Penny for your Thought?

Emotions and the Bible

I’ve been thinking about emotions lately. Why people I’ve been discussing with are admonishing more actions to obtain emotions, mainly “happiness” and “fun.” This, I compare and contrast with the logical self, the “Spock” who feels no emotions, or at least only acts upon what is logical.

Naturally, the extremes of the two are not considered desirable. Yet, I believe that Christianity has taught the latter extreme.

Consider the sermon on the mount: anger and hate is subject to judgement, as is lust. Don’t hate your enemy, and looking at another woman apparently is adultery in itself. Article after article with a simple search (or sitting in a conservative service) spreads demonizing the “harlot,” and the type of women who entice men.

Suggestive, seductive clothing is one of the traps she uses to lure the young man. I look around at some gatherings of believers and wonder, “Don’t these women realize what they are communicating to men by the way they dress?” An outwardly modest appearance reflects a modest and wise heart. Immodest dress suggests a foolish, immoral heart.

You know, cause a woman wanting sex is bad. But a man “courting” a woman and “wooing” her is a noble thing.

This seems very damaging to me. The extensive nature of Christian upbringing in America says to me that many of us have been indoctrinated in these models of thought and the tendrils may run deeper than we realize.

I could write more, but it would be excessive.

What are your thoughts, on any of it?