Labels, Lifestyles, and the Like


While on the road to self-actualization and introspection, one will quickly find stories of finding an identity within a community under a word.

Spritual, pantheist, asexual, gay, bi, dom, femme, male, teacher, mother, Christian, Atheist, joker, trans, black, crazy cat lady, republican, bipolar………………..

The amount of words we use to identify ourselves are immensely vast and varying in type and category.

They serve a purpose. Community, fellowship, rapid ability to identify with another. But does it serve to help, or hurt the individual?

Oftentimes, it helps. For a while. They research, ask around, and eventually find self-meaning. Immediately a feeling of “finally!” comes, and joy in finding people to relate and connect with.

The problem comes when you are known as that, and not as you. If the bond is created because of the shared affiliation, when change comes, and it will as life would have it, the community once shared and feeling of belonging falls. A depressed state often follows.

Some labels we do not choose. Our race and our gender are easy examples. These two can be harmful as genitalia do not define gender identification, and race is not often helpful (a black English, a white African, etc).

None of these thoughts are ultimate, as I’m sure they vary. My thoughts, presently, are that in the least labeling leads to decreased introspection. By accepting “I am this”, although it may be true, it can hinder how the individual actualizes that identity. We all know of the varying denominations of Christianity, yet they are all under that umbrella. Digging deeper, within the denomination, almost every individual has at least 1 theological point they differ on. So do we keep creating names? Everyone fleshes out themselves in their own, extremely unique way.

But, I’m curious. Personally, I see the benefits and frustrations with accepting a lifestyle identity or label, but I also see the impossibility of it.

What are your thoughts?

Perhaps, if you will, what are your identities and how do you personally flesh them out that not necessarily everyone under the umbrella term do?


Radical Change


My muse is gone. I typed up this shit only to have it dissapear into a void once I clicked “publish” and only the image go through.

Radical Change. Rosa Parks, Ghandi, the like. I can not remember much more.

All I know is I desire in the deepest of my being to be the one to cry “The Earth is Round!” in an era where doing so is insane. Something so drastic and shattering.

I can not settle for less. I will not be The Simple Man.

Help. A Penny for Your Radical Thoughts? What must be done in today’s era that one person can do, and which everyone fears doing?



Magnet from a christian inspirational store. Go ahead, buy one:

I used to hear this exhortation often. Whenever a big decisions (or even small ones) came around, it was encouraged to pray first. Some, I suppose, have converted this to a “think” first concept, or “meditate on it” if you will.


I suppose it’s because of the reality of the polarity of our own thoughts. As if two people are taking, one taking each side, but both being us (unless, of course, you believe one is God). The admonition to wait/meditate/pray, therefore, must be so that one can discern the “right” decision.

But I’m unsure, is there ever a right choice? This isn’t an ethics question, but a subjective one. Choices concerning our lives are ours alone, and surely deep down we know what we want. What will bring the most joy both immediate and long term. So why do we deliberate.

Carpe diem. Right? If a choice brings bad consequences, at least motion was made. Change. Isn’t stagnancy abhorrent?

Or do I have it all wrong, and it’s wise and careful discernment and “looking before you leap”?

What do you think? What method do you tend to take? Which do you think is more beneficial? Or is it even that cut and dry? Perhaps it’s situational?